Prom Tips!

Prom season is here! Just the other day I saw a creative invitation to Prom, a High Schooler used the Abbey’s reader board to ask his date! Hopefully she said “Yes!”promshopping521

A few tips I can offer you is:

Take lots of pictures, not only will your parents appreciate this, you will enjoy having them to look back on when you are older!

Comfortable shoes are a must if you are going to be dancing all night long!

Drink lots of water, when you are dancing and in a crowd it is easy to become dehydrated and you don’t want to risk not feeling well at your Prom!

Make sure you form a plan with your parents, letting them know when it starts and ends, who you are going with and what your plans are after.

If you bringing a clutch or small purse it may be helpful to put in a small emergency kit that includes safety pins, bobby pins, hair ties, band aids and a little extra money in it!

The main thing is to have fun! It is a night to celebrate with your friends and classmates!

Marchin’ In March

Did you know: The month of March was named after the Roman god of war, named Martius?

Did you know: In many cultures, March is considered the first month of the year, in which they celebrate the New Year’s?

If all this is true, what better month to celebrate NATIONAL WOMEN’S HISTORY MONTH! From March 8 National Women’s Day to having the week of March 8 as Women’s History Week, we now celebrate a whole month dedicated to women around the world!

Many of us wouldn’t be here today without the wonderful ladies before us. In fact, more than centuries ago, women were fighting to have the same rights as men. Women in the 1800’s began to realize that they were not getting the same treatment or benefits as men. One of the biggest advantages for men was the fact they were able to vote. Therefore, women rallied together across the United States to pursue their rights.

To promote their awareness, women did what? You guessed it! They MARCHED their way to their independence. Through numerous of petitions, years of protesting, and united suffrage organizations, women continued to press on making a difference throughout our states. It actually wasn’t until May 1920, when Congress passed the 19th Amendment: “The right of citizens of the United States to vote shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any State on account of sex.”

In all, this month focuses on celebrating all the contributions women around the world have made throughout our history. From Amelia Earhart being the first woman to fly across the Atlantic Ocean to Rosa Parks refusing to give her seat up on a bus, women around the world are worthy of praise and making great differences in people’s lives.

This year’s theme for International Women’s Day is #BalanceforBetter. Bringing awareness to a well-balanced world, we all can live in harmony, no matter the color of our skin, race, or ethnicity. It’s really to celebrate the “social, economic, cultural, and political achievements of women – while also marking a call to action for accelerating gender balance.” Don’t forget to share this with your friends and family.

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We want to celebrate women and girls of all cultures, races, and ethnicities this month! Thank you, ladies, for MARCHING along with us and making a difference in all of our lives. From the biggest achievements to the littlest accomplishments, be proud to be a female.

February Is Full Of Love!

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As a teenager starting to date you will hear lots of advice from peers, family, teachers and social media. Each brings a unique source of advice.

Throughout my life I too have received advice from all the above and in my opinion there are 7 universal qualities that are needed to have a long lasting loving relationship.

  1. Trust- Accepting another’s word and giving each other the benefit of doubt
  2. Accountability- Admit your mistakes and take responsibility for one’s behavior, attitudes and beliefs.
  3. Cooperation- Make decisions together, accept if a change occurs and a win-win solution to problems.
  4. Support- Support each other’s choices, be understanding, offer encouragement, listen to one another non-judgmentally and value each other’s opinions.
  5. Honesty- Communicate openly and truthfully.
  6. Safety- Respecting one’s physical space and expressing oneself non- violently.
  7. Respect- Respect your partner’s choices, values and beliefs.

Santa Claus is coming!

Holiday season is in full swing, I am now ok with hearing Christmas music and seeing the store displays up! Personally I think it is silly we start seeing and hearing such things around Halloween!

One of the many great things to enjoy around Christmas is curling up on the couch to a holiday movie! There are so many to choose from I have compiled a list from the staff here at Youth Outreach of some of our favorite movies: Home Alone, The Grinch, The Polar Express, Elf and Christmas Vacation were the most popular followed by a couple of classic choices: The Year without Santa, A White Christmas and A Christmas Story.  A personal favorite of mine is Miracle on 34th street.

I suggest making some hot cocoa and finding a warm blanket and popping one of these in and enjoy!


Things I wish I knew in High School!

The leaves are beginning to change and school is back in full swing, going from the freedom of summer to the busy schedule of school and extra curricular activities takes a minute to adjust to. It is time to just breathe and enjoy this time, because Graduation will be here before you know it!

It has been a minute since I have sat in a homeroom class but with age I like to think I’ve gained some wisdom that is worth sharing, here are a few things I wish I would’ve known in my younger years:

Take Risks- You will learn so much about yourself when you go outside of your comfort zone.

Do your homework- It not only will keep your teachers happy, but will help prepare you for tests and who knows maybe you just might learn something that will help you win Jeopardy someday!

It only last 4 years- Yes, High School is the center of your life now but in the grand scheme of things it is only 4 years.

Get involved- Play a sport, volunteer, join a club or 5! You will create lasting memories with those who are also involved.

Who you are now is not who you’ll always be- Use these years to figure things out, you are still growing into the person you will be as an adult.  You don’t have to have the answers to everything now.

Despite what you think you know, you are not grown- Listen to advice from your parents and teachers, you don’t always have to agree but they are often speaking from experience and just trying to help.

High school drama is pointless- You likely won’t stay in contact with those who cause drama in you and your friends life. Try to brush of any rumors or speak to an adult if issues with someone keeps persisting.

Don’t worry so much about your appearance- Most likely people aren’t even paying attention to what you are wearing since they are caught up in their own appearances.

Get some sleep- Yes it is fun to stay up until 3 in the morning with friends but there is always a lot going on during these years and in order to function at your best you’ll want to have a consistent sleep schedule.

How to budget- Don’t always blow your whole paycheck if you are working, by putting a little into savings will help jump start your future and you never know when an emergency will happen and having a little put away will go a long way.

Get to know yourself- Explore your interests, figure out what your likes and dislikes are. Getting to know yourself better will help build confidence.

How to impress in a dress on a budget!

All the fun ahomecomingnd exciting events of Homecoming will be here before you know it! But don’t sweat, there is still time and plenty of places where you can find a dress that will make you feel like the belle of the ball! If you are not looking to spend a ton of money for a dress that you most likely will only wear once, there are a handful of resale shops around!

New to You and Goodwill are located in McMinnville.  Newberg has Lucky Finds, Newberg Thrift Shop and a Goodwill.  These shops can also be found online at:

Since those are all local why not get a group of friends together and spend an afternoon trying on all styles of dresses from silly ones to ball gowns, you never know what you will end up with! One thing for sure is you will have lots of laughs and make lots of memories!

If you are more of an online shopper, Facebook market place is a great tool. You can make a post that you are in search of homecoming dresses or just browse and see if any pop up. Just make sure you have parental consent and always have a safe public designated meeting place.

Other options to consider, Ross in McMinnville often has a selection of formal wear. If you are wanting to make a drive Adorned in Grace is in Portland and is a great shop where their proceeds go to help stop human trafficking.

All of these are places you also might want to keep in mind for prom dress shopping as well!



Many times throughout a year people set goals that they can work towards and achieve during that year. Also every year people quickly give up on those goals. Why is that? There are many reasons behind failing at the goals you set.

One reason might be that you didn’t set a goal that was actually achievable. Another reason might be that you didn’t know how to really get started on the goal so you stopped before getting started.

Have you thought about setting a goal or two you’d like to achieve? Have you already set one but you haven’t put much effort on achieving?

Here are a couple of tips to think about:

1.) Keeping it real. Choose a goal that you can reach. So, for example if you are failing a class and you want an A instead, what are the steps you’d take to raise your grade. Those steps could look like this:

first-attend class everyday

second-turn in assignments

third-ask for extra credit work

finally-don’t be afraid to ask for help.

2.) Break your bigger, ultimate goal into smaller achievable ones. From the previous example your ultimate goal would be to get an A in your class that you’re currently failing. Smaller goals that you can achieve in a shorter period of time will help you feel better and keep you motivated to achieve that ultimate goal you set. If we look at the previous example a smaller goal could be that by using the previous steps I will have brought my grade up from failing to a C. You now have a smaller, easier to obtain goal that you can work toward. Once you achieve that smaller goal you’re only another step away from achieving that A.


Social Media: Are You Doing it Safely?

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All of us are probably guilty of spending more time than we care to admit on social media sites. Have you ever gone to Pinterest to look up one thing and two hours later you’re watching a video of dancing penguins? No, just me?   In this day and age social media is huge and we spend a lot of time on it, posting pictures, and sharing many aspects of our life with others.  With all of this time spent on social media, do you ever take a minute to think about safety while using these sites? Here are some safety tips to consider while navigating social media:

1) Lock down your profile on your social media sites and don’t friend people you don’t know. If all of your personal information is available for anyone to see then they can locate you as you’ve revealed many things about yourself including the town you live in, where you work, or where you go to school.

2) Keep personal information about yourself private. If you reveal your info, someone that shouldn’t might be able to find you.

3) If you don’t personally know the person you’re chatting with don’t agree to meet them alone somewhere.

4) Be cautious in how you use check-ins on social media.  If you use the check-in feature on some social media sites then someone will also know your exact location at that moment. Do you want a random stranger to know exactly where you are at any given moment?

You can stay safer by keeping  your friends list to only friends you actually know, lock down your profile so only those friends can see what you’re doing and keep your personal information private.

Be Who You Are


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As girls it can be difficult to feel positive about how we look or what we do when we see celebrities, and others portrayed in the media with seemingly flawless bodies.  When we spend all of our time trying to be perfect, it can have a negative effect on how we feel about ourselves.  Theodore Roosevelt once said that “comparison is the thief of joy” and when we talk about how we feel about ourselves this is definitely true. If you are always comparing yourself to others or to models and celebrities, will you ever be okay with your own body? Here are a couple of tips to keep in mind:

1) Create a list of positive things your body does for you; if your body got you to and from school today then put that on your list. Each time you start to feel down or negative about your body add something positive about your body to the list instead.

2) When you look at yourself in the mirror, don’t focus on body parts or flaws you think you have. See yourself as the whole person you are. If you start to think about all the things you hate about yourself as you look, say something positive instead. Is there a positive quote you love? Repeat it out loud when you start feeling negative.

And finally, love yourself just the way you are. You are still growing and developing which means that thing about your body that you hate right now, you may grow out of that or even grow to love it.

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Making Time for Yourself


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Everyone, even adults get stressed in their lives. Maybe there’s a lot going on at a job, maybe finals are coming up, or there’s something else going on at home. During these times of high stress it’s good to think about self-care. Self-care is when you take time to do something for yourself that you enjoy doing and that can make you feel better afterwards. There are some basic things you can do that will help with stress such as making sure you get enough sleep, exercising, and eating healthy.

Taking that time for yourself to unwind and destress is important not just for your mental health but also for your physical health too.  Self-care doesn’t have to cost money either. Here are some ideas for self-care that don’t cost a penny:

  • Playing a video game that you love
  • Journaling
  • Drawing or other art activity
  • Taking a walk or doing something else outside
  • Listening to music
  • Reading a book
  • Bubble bath

Find something you enjoy and spend some time to take care of yourself! Here at YO we have many different activities & clubs you can try out. During Spring Break you can come to YO for our girls’ night and make a unicorn sugar scrub.

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