Feeling Stressed or Angry??? Be Careful!

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I don’t know about you gals, but the last few weeks have been super stressful for me. And the everyday gloom of a rainy winter isn’t helping. When I happened to come across this picture during one of my “I-have-so-much-I-could-be-doing-right-now-but-instead-I-am-going-to-spend-hours-on-pinterest” moments, it really got me thinking.

I think the message of this quote is extremely important. Especially while we are young and feel like we are on top of the world. The decisions we make now can and will effect us for THE REST OF OUR LIVES

As we get older, our responsibilities and decisions begin to pile up. And honestly, it gets hard.

But that doesn’t mean we should make excuses or stupid decision. Have you ever seen the Snickers candy bar commercials where there is a large, often angry and loud being in the midst of a group of friends? And then the friends tell the creature to eat a snickers because “you aren’t you when you are hungry”?

This is so true. When someone is hungry, they often become irritated and easily frustrated. As Snickers suggests, you can become a monster.

You also aren’t you when you are tired, angry, scared, or stressed. Here are some simple ideas of how to manage some of those stressful or angering moments.

Stress:

  • Get some sleep!!! With homework, school, sports, television, phones, friends, family, and all the other busy parts of a teens life, getting 7-8 hours of sleep seems nearly impossible. However, sleeping gives your body time to relax and reload itself, and is one of the most important stress relievers
  • Social Media  This may sound like I am asking you to give up your life, but trust me, taking some time and stepping away from the constant stream of Facebook status’, instagram posts, and tweets will drastically eliminate some of that stress. Just try it and you’ll see! Constantly being connected means that there is no time to just be you. And being you is the most important thing you can do!
  • Go outside! When you were a kid, did your parents ever tell you to get outside and get some fresh air? I know mine sure did…. But they were right.  The refreshing air and open space will do wonders for your stress level.
  • Exercise While enjoying the outdoors, try going for a walk, run, play some frisbee, play tag with your friends, go on a hike, climb a tree, or any other physical activity you enjoy. Not only has exercise been proven to reduce stress and clear the mind, but it is also good for your health! And you can eat that extra cookie without feeling so guilty! =D
  • Talk  If you are feeling overwhelmed, don’t ever be afraid to talk to someone. Try a close friend, a teacher, parent, school counselor or anyone else you feel comfortable with. Also… don’t forget that the staff here at YO are always willing to talk to you too!!

Anger

  • SLEEP Just like with stress, getting plenty of sleep will reduce your irritability and therefore make you less likely to get angry.
  • Take time for yourself  At the end of the day, you are are what is most important. Make sure you respect yourself and your body by taking time away from distractions such as media, friends, and school, and your phone to just be you. You could try journaling, working out, doing crafts, or just sitting still and relaxing.
  • Admitting your anger is the first and most important step to getting over these emotions. Don’t be afraid or ashamed to be angry, it is a completely normal thing to feel.
  • Talk it out! Just as with feeling stressed, talking about your feelings is extremely important.

Hungry 

  • Eat Something! Chocolate is always a good choice!! =D

~Alyssa

Under the Mistletoe

     The holidays are a great time to spend with family, an awesome break from school, and presents galore! There are always things to be thankful for during this beautiful time of cheer.  However, sometimes it can be a dreary reminder to the single girls out there that they have no one under the mistletoe.  Or a time when girls feel pressured by the special someone under the mistletoe to show extra affection.  If you have never had either of these problems consider yourself lucky! For the rest of us, let’s discuss how best to navigate the tricky holiday-in-relationship (or lack there of) season.

  ALL THE SINGLE LADIES… First of all I know how you feel.  I’ve spent countless christmas’ watching my sister cousins and friends getting sweet gifts from their boyfriends and marveling over their young love.  They never seem to notice that the time that they spend reflecting (to often a loud to you) about how thankful they are for their boyfriend, you feel like you’re missing out on something.  Trust me, it’s not as glorious as it sounds.  Being in a relationship is a great thing, but worth waiting for the person you actually want to be with.  There are so many fish in the sea that it is often times really hard to find the fish that fits you.  But the mistletoe will be there for the rest of your life.  And eventually the guy who wants you and only you to share that with him will come along and add romance to your holiday.  In the meantime spend the holiday fully committing yourself to appreciating you family and friends.  Give them your full attention and you’ll soon be forgetting about what you don’t have.

HOLIDAY ROMANCERS… I’m sure he’s really cute, and I’ll bet he’s sweet to you.  But no matter how great a guy is, your present for him can be thoughtful and romantic without making you go out of your comfort zone.  Any guy who is worth your time should want you to be happy during the holidays and shouldn’t be pressuring you “under the mistletoe.”  So hold your ground.  I know that you want to make him happy and let him know how much he means to you, but gift giving should be healthy and happy for both of you.  Get him something that means a lot to him, however, what happens under the mistletoe is meant to be special for both of you.  So don’t sacrifice your part of the experience because you feel pressured. If he really cares about you he will wait for when you are both ready.

 

~Charis

Safely Being Alone

If you have been fortunate in your life you have never been in a situation where you felt threatened.  However, it is possible for anyone to randomly become subject to some really horrible things.  There are some scary people in the world, and if you don’t want to hide away for the rest of your life, you should learn how to defend yourself.  That way you can keep living life the way you want to without fear of being hurt. 

One of the most important things to remember is to stay out of sketchy places.  If you are in a city and you see a street that’s dark and there’s no one around, don’t go down it.  It seems pretty obvious, right? But a lot of people start to think that they wont be the one person who happens to get hurt.  Or they think that being afraid of sketchy places is wimpy, but that would seem like a really ridiculous excuse if you were to get hurt for putting yourself in that situation. 

Another thing is to have an emergency number on speed dial and your cell phone in your hand.  That way you could get help if you felt threatened. 

Avoid going places alone if you don’t have to.  Who likes going around by themselves anyway? Just travel in groups and make sure everyone you were with is accounted for. 

And ALWAYS call for help! Make noise and fight.  Even if the person threatens you and its hard to think of the right thing to do, it’s better to make a scene in a public place before they can do something to you than to simply allow something bad to happen without doing anything about it. 

And last of all, simply go with your instincts.  If you see someone and you feel like something is odd or feels wrong, there is probly a reason for it.  Avoid the feeling of being in danger because you get that feeling to keep you safe.  If everything was okay then it shouldn’t make you nervous.  If it does then don’t question it because it is much better to be safe then sorry!